New Thwack, Same Love

So my lovely man has this malignant tumour in his eye, and after waiting long enough that we could have grown a very slow vegetable garden, we’re leaving for Toronto this morning so that he can have his eye removed.

People say, oh, how do you do it, is he devastated, i can’t imagine how that feels, etc., etc.

Truth is it feels like regular life, but with the colour turned up a bit.  By that, i mean that this is a larger obstacle than usual (than boredom, than money, than career choices, than finding my way around in Bangkok), but it’s still an obstacle. An unexpected thwack in the head.  And what matters, what comes in handy,  is the skills we’ve already developed to deal with thwacks in the head.

On good days (and most of them are good), we focus on what matters.  Do we know what makes us happiest and what matters most to us? Do we know how to listen to our hearts rather than our heads? Can we really listen to each other in this relationship? Can we act from love rather than from fear?

All the questions are the same.  Which makes me want to suggest that we’re wise to know ourselves as well as we can and to practice being here, now.  This practice is the way through boredom or Bangkok.  It’s the way through every single day of regular life. The same practice is the way when it’s cancer, life, and death.

Life is big.  Sometimes bigger than i’d like.  Not for a second does that change the fact that Love wins, and that my greatest task, no matter how big life gets, is to remember that.

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13 Responses to New Thwack, Same Love

  1. Catherine says:

    You are both in my prayers. Be well!!

  2. Debbie says:

    Know yourself, practice being here now and remember that Love wins. So beautiful and inspirational!!

    My thoughts are with you during this unexpected twack.

  3. nanci farella says:

    Life IS Big Kristin and you’re right, when we approach with love, as we remember, it turns out to be what it shall be. I suppose when we forget to approach with love, it still turns out as it will, but the difference being that we are possibly left feeling a bit lost and disoriented with the journey.
    Love is trustworthy and truthful – full of guidance.
    Thank you for reminding all of us of that special fact!
    Hugs,
    Nanci

  4. Stacey Lowe says:

    I am not sure where I read what I am about attempt to convey but here goes. The thought behind it is that when you see (or in your case read about) someone who is going through a bad time,don’t send out prayers,feeling or thoughts filled with sympathy or sadness even though that might be what you initially feel.Send out thoughts of positives like happiness,peace and love. So that is what am sending out to you both. Also wanted to send a quote;
    “Eventually you will come to understand that love heals everything, and love is all there is.” ~ Gary Zukav

  5. Nenette says:

    Have been thinking of you and your lovely man. Ordinary life is nothing but a collection of extraordinary moments. All we can do is breathe through each moment, one by one, knowing that each breath brings a new hope, and a new chance to be reborn. Go with God. Go with love. I am sending you quite a bit of my own, to help you get from one moment to the next.

  6. Raelenne Haeberle says:

    Just a short time ago, I wandered down a road and discovered you on your journey — a journey you have selflessly been willing to share with strangers such s myself. Thank you for filling my backpack with many thought-provoking and introspective musings that allow be to continue on mine with more purpose, pleasure, compassion, and love. You will both be in my prayers and meditations as you travel down this road. Thank you for sharing with all of us.

  7. Neil Collins says:

    There really are no words.
    (Big Hug)

  8. Mark Pearson says:

    All the best to you both.

    Mark =)

  9. Judy Garcia says:

    You are a true inspiration, and have allowed me to pause and realize how much goodness is in my life that I need to appreciate on a daily basis. You are in my prayers.

  10. barry green says:

    much love and my prayers to you both. you are each blessed to have each other. -bar

  11. Marie Robbins (friend of Judi Race) says:

    Thank you for sharing. It gives such strength that will bounce back to you.

  12. karen Waller says:

    Thinking of you both xx

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